Question #1:

Need some help in repairing relationship?

Well, I am with this girl for 6 months now. She is just awesome, and I love her with all of my heart. it has been since Christmas that we have gone rock bottom though and now we are getting more and more estranged from the fun and loving couple we were at the beginning. The problem is that well, I at first wanted to forget about someone and so in doing so I attempted to fall in love with her, then at christmas we both went through one of our hardest times, my parents tried to get her away and then I sent a hurtful letter which I now regret to this chick I was trying to forget (stupid me, I know) because my girlfriend was calling my attention by breaking up with me, and then she sent an apology letter, and while I forgave her I couldn't move my pieces like I should have; and then it was a deal with her as well where my girlfriend felt like I was taking her position while I was busy doing some other things. Now I have begged for a last chance after all that and she granted it, but she still clings on to the past and relives day and day again all my mistakes and she feels hurt, and I honestly want her to move on and make things better for both of us because I believe there's still a chance; we've had fights since the time that she gave me that last chance and most of them are because of stuff I've done in the past when I told her that this last chance I wanted to start all over again, and I also in my frustration with her bringing things from the past as well (which is another mistake of mine). Any help, advice or something that I can do to let her see that she needs to move on and let me try it again from the very beginning? And what should I do to prove her that I am really sorry about all my mistakes and that I am trying to change?

Question #2:

Why would my ex contact me completely out of the blue after 6 months of ignoring me?

What should I do?

He ignored me on Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years, Valentines, His 18th Birthday, and My Birthday!!...and now he's contacting me completely out of the blue 6 months later?

I dont want to go back to square one.

Basically he cheated on me and "moved on" without the person he cheated on me with....and he never looked back....completely ignoring me with no regard for hurting my feelings. Callous!

It really hurts knowing the person you fell in love with is having sex 3 times a day, and "sleeping" every night in the same bed with his new "significant other" for the last 6 months!

He threw me away like a disposable tissue. Should I totally ignore him now....forever? I'm not just going to pretend Im happy with his behavior and everything is peaches and cream. What he did was horrible.

I wrote this 10-page email when all this s*** went down which basically tells him exactly why he's a selfish jerk, with specific examples of his behavior. It's not a friendly letter. I promised I would send this letter if he ever contacted me again. It tells him off in DETAIL exactly how he's a jerk.

But i think that letter might backfire, by showing him that i still care and that he still has all that power over me... and how hes hurt me. But it's TRUE.

So should I just ignore him? Should I continue to leave his voicemails unanswered? I mean he ignored me for 6 months while he was bangin his new squeeze. I could have been dead for all he cared.

Should I send the letter?

And why is he contacting me after 6 months of no contact? He knew i fell in love with him and still treated me that way.

We had an age-gap relationship where i was his "sugar daddy" so-to-speak. I felt used for my money, and I think he never really loved me, just my money. But if that were true, he would have never left the money in the first place. He had everything and he still left.


He's been diagnosed as Bipolar-1, and is not taking his meds or going to therapy.... but I don't think that has anything to do with it. He can be the "perfect" boyfriend to his new squeeze for 6 months and counting, so if he wants to be nice, he can be.

Dont i have every right to be pissed, and let him know about it? Even if it has been more than 6 months? Your thoughts...

Back in December he wanted to borrow money from me because he "bought Christmas presents" for his new squeeze. Can you beleive the nerve! He didnt even bother to buy me a Christmas present, but wanted to borrow money from me because he was all tapped out of cash from buying OTHER people presents.

Question #3:

My sister's infant has tortocollis and.....?

I spoke to one of my sisters today and she told me that a Dr diagnosed her baby with tortocollis.

But my sister has other concerns... The tortocollis would explain her flat spot on her head and stiff upper muscles but would it explain her total lack of strength in her lower body?

She's in physical therapy and my sister does not feel it's helping.

She is not as delayed in her mental development than she is in her physical. But she is not laughing, she recently started to smile.

But physically, she is not rolling, not sitting up and keeps her legs drawn up to her body like a little frog and she is very small for her age. But she also has digestive problems so I think that's why.

She also can not push with her legs and if you try to stand her up her legs collapse instantly.

My sister was worried my niece has autism and was looking that up. But she only has one autism symptom that really stands out.

She has no control over her body yet and will often flap her arms out of control or go to move her hand to her mouth but hit herself in the side of the face... She said she read that babies with autism will flap their arms about...

But this is what worries me.

We looked up cerebral palsy and she has basically every symptom.

Every symptom.... It even describes problems with swallowing and breathing and around Christmas time she was taken to the ER for strange breathing.

She has no muscle strength, tone or control and is delayed on milestones...

But how early is too early to diagnose it?

And also, is it possible it really is just the tortocollis causing all the problems? How long will tortocollis take to work out?
She has been seeing Drs since she was 4 months old. She is going to be 7 months soon and so far she has the best Dr yet.

He actually diagnossed her with something and has her in physical therapy.
Mom to baby Alex, obviously tortocollis does not cause cerebral pals or autism....

Since you don't undertand my question I will simplify it for you...

Dr. is saying baby has tortocollis...

We feel it is something more serious...

We worry it is cerebral palsy...

We want to know how early that can be detected and truly diagnossed...

And IF she does indeed have torocollis how long will it take to work out...

Is that more understandable for you?

Oh also, I already posted her age before you posted your answer.. It is right there if you'd like to know.

Thaaaanks :)
Thank you Jorge's mama! That is wonderful info. There's been a lot going on and everything has been so stresful! I feel like my sister never gets anywhere and it's frustrating her and it's frustrating me for their sake.

Because Tyler is not my daughter I can't walk in to a Dr office and make demands on her behalf lol. But she is finally starting to get some answers and she is starting be more assertive and proactive about this.

I hope to God it's not Cerebral Palsy. Her Dr claims the slower delay to reach milestones is because the Tortocollis imparing her physically which is causing her to be impaired mentally.

The thing about the Tortocollis, I looked up pics and info and her head is not stuck to the side like some babies. She has a stiff upper body and her neck does pull more to one side which is why she has a flat head.

But Tortocollis would not explain her lower body problems.

Thank you so much for the info!
Thank you Jorge's mama! That is wonderful info. There's been a lot going on and everything has been so stresful! I feel like my sister never gets anywhere and it's frustrating her and it's frustrating me for their sake.

Because Tyler is not my daughter I can't walk in to a Dr office and make demands on her behalf lol. But she is finally starting to get some answers and she is starting be more assertive and proactive about this.

I hope to God it's not Cerebral Palsy. Her Dr claims the slower delay to reach milestones is because the Tortocollis imparing her physically which is causing her to be impaired mentally.

The thing about the Tortocollis, I looked up pics and info and her head is not stuck to the side like some babies. She has a stiff upper body and her neck does pull more to one side which is why she has a flat head.

But Tortocollis would not explain her lower body problems.

Thank you so much for the info!

Question #4:

What's my male cockatiel doing he is just sitting in the nestbox?

He started this yesterday. He just sat in the nestbox and he came out when I spooked him. But now I found him sitting in the nestbox when he saw me he went by the entrance. And now he is just sitting by the entrance when I checked yesterday there were no eggs in there. So I think he is just checking the nestbox out because he has not been in there since Christmas. So what is he doing?
They just mated this morning

Question #5:

ok fine, why do atheist celebrate the day Christians set aside?

i know that there is a pagan holiday around that time and i know that no on knows the exact date of Jesus's birthday.... but REGARDLESS OF WHAT ANYONE SAYS ABOUT PAGAN CRAP FROM BACK IN FOREVER AGO B.C! CHRISTIANS!! in AMERICA TODAY!!! (NOT OLD EASTERN EUROPE!) set aside to celebrate Jesus's birthday. so if you dont believe in JESUS!!! WHY THE FLIP FLAP CRACKER JACK ARE YOU CELEBRATING IT!! (please no comment about the pagan bull. considering that i am not talking about the pagan holiday but i am talking about the christian holiday. you know, the one we all say "merry Christmas" during. and if you say x-mas, your also apart of this because what is the point of taking out christ and putting the x. its the same holiday that your trying not to but still celebrating, like it or not)

Question #6:

why do atheist/non-christians celebrate christmas?

i am so confused, i do not know how someone who does not believe in Jesus, celebrate his birth... that's like going to someones birthday party who you think does not even exist. I do not celebrate Ramadan or Hanukkah because i am not muslim or Jewish so why would i celebrate their religion's holidays??? i am confused. please help me

Question #7:

Our dog wont gain weight?

we got a puppy for our daughter for christmas,the pup was 2 months old at the time.
We started out feeding her once a day.(a big portion) but never saw any weight gain.
We then moved up to two feedings of the same size(its a big dish) and no weight gain.
We have been giving her feedings three times daily now for about two months and she is still very skinny. We can see her ribs,where as the rest of the litter that is owned by friends are fat and rolly even with two feedings.
The pup is very active and playful and friendly and never lies around,but we cant figure a way for her to gain any weight.
Any ideas will be helpful.

Question #8:

What was your very first computer you owned and what year?

Me, it was a white Windows 98 computer for the family, we got it after the Christmas of 1999

Question #9:

i have proof Santa is real ok...?

every christmas mom leaves 2 beers and cookies by the chimney...every year he leaves one of the beers...and o know for a fact if it was my dad...BOTH beers would be drank...plus all the cookies...so there ..???

Question #10:

How come my mom is saying no to makeup?

Well first of all a year ago my mom let me wear only mascara it was cover girl lash blast (i couldn't even tell if i even looked decent cause it was so retarded!!) and then like she got me these eyeliner crayons and they sucked and i didn't know what to do with them so i did the same thing as eye shadow (looked crappy) so then at christmas time i got eyeliner and decided to make a scene make up thing,but today i was like "hey i need liquid eyeliner to complete the look!" and i asked mom "hey mom are we going to CVS pharmacy sometime soon?" and she said "yeah why?" and i said "well do you think maybe i could get some liquid eyeliner around 5$ or under??" and she replied "well you already have eyeliner and you look pretty without it,and it's mostly up to Dad too,and we aren't loaded with money you know." which was G E Y and besides she already lets me wear make up and stuff,and she is stuffed full of money because she we went to cold water michigan to best buy and we went to get trevor my brother something that was quite a bit of money and we bought other stuff too!! that was even more pricey then liquid liner!
so i don't know..what to say to her and stuff so..i really want liquid liner and my b-day is 12 days away and i don't know if i can wait that long..im turning 13 and yeah..can someone please help?? ):
@ the first replier i just want to say that you weren't very um..kind and im not spoiled i just am a bit not so on the pretty side in my eyes,and other people say im pretty and gorgeous and all that jazz but im just saying,and does age really matter? im turning 13 anyways so yeah be nice and i don't care how ol you are,besides i know i have pretty good make up i just think shes being unfair giving my brother everything and not me.
and finaly im not a child im 12 and prostitution is a whole other thing than make up ya jerk :T prostitutes are people that work the corners and wear flashy clothes that show their parts and have intimate you know what with strangers for money so they can make a living but thats illegal and creepy,otherwise thank you i guess.
@the middle reply thank you for being nice :) and also i guess i can wait im feeling more perky! haha x3
@the last reply i know i know im only 12 but yeah haha im very mature for my age and i know im very young to be wearing make up.
and also @the last reply
um i don't beg lol,begging is for hobos and um girls like Elliott Jones who is 9 and cant even warm up a freaking poptart!! her mom does everything for her and babys' her ,so technically she is the definition of "brat" so yeah,and my family is going through money issues so i don't get allowance, and no jobs are open in my area.
So yeah im sorry i proved im not super rich i just want to be but doesn't everyone? and also im glad im poor and im glad that im happy now even before i check my replies so thank you much.

Question #11:

I Don't Want To Lose Her To Another Man?

In My spare time I like to go to local libraries. In July of 2009, I met a beautiful white woman named Jaclynn at one of these libraries. Jaclynn as it turns out was a new librarian there. She also was going through a break up with her husband (after being involved with each other for at least 15 years, he decided to leave her for another woman).
I got to know Jaclynn and we have many interesting and wonderful conversations at the library. We are both in our 30's and have many similar interests.
Jaclynn and her husband have 3 children together and are not divorced, but are clearly separated. From what Jaclynn has told me, it doesn't appear that they are going to get back together. After talking with her over time I became more and more interested in her. I realized I wanted to be better friends and more.
So October of 2009, I told her this. I asked if she would be interested in talking sometime outside of the library. Jaclynn said that she would like to, but wasn't ready to date anyone yet. Around Christmas of 2009, I asked her again. Jaclynn said that there were 3 other people she had to think about before getting involved with another man. I assured her, that I was willing to take things slow. If we became more than friends, that would just be icing on the cake. She agreed. A few days later I even ended up meeting her oldest son Sean who works at the library as a page. Sean seemed like a very polite kid and I told Jaclynn that she raised him well.
Now it is in the spring of 2010. Jaclynn and I still have not done anything more than talk at the library. Since Christmas of 2009 I have tried to meet other women and forget about Jaclynn. Other women don't seem to be as interest me as much as Jaclynn and they don't seem to be as interested in me as she is.
Before Jaclynn came into my life, I never thought of dating a woman with children. I have dated other white women along with black women, but none of these women had children. I told her this and Jaclynn smiled. Jaclynn said she had never been involved with a black man cause until she met me, she wasn't interested.
I have also thought about her children and know they are part of the package. That's why I am willing to go slow and stay at whatever pace Jaclynn wants. I don't think she wants me to be a father to her children, but if we do end up falling in love and she wants me to be their father figure or even step dad if we get married that is fine with me. I don't have any children now and think that Jaclynn is a wonderful mother and a wonderful woman. I can't imagine her not being in my life at least as a friend, if not more than that. I am looking to be better friends with and possibly start dating her. I am NOT just looking for sex. Jaclynn knows this.
I am not sure why she is hesitant to date me (still not over her ex, she is hurt, has trust issues, because I am black, or whatever) however after asking this question the other day I realize she still needs time to think things through. ********************************************************************************************************************
Now my questions are: If I sit back and do nothing and not pressure her about going on a date, I am worried that I risk the chance of becoming just the guy who talks to her at the library. Not the next guy she dates. I have no problem giving her time, but if I were to find out she is going to end up dating another man and or having sex with another man not only would I be jealous, but heartbroken as well.
Jaclynn isn't the type of woman to go around dating and having sex with lots of guys, however she is human and has needs. I don't know if she has dated or had sex with anyone since her break up with her husband nor do I want to really know... HOWEVER I do know that she is beautiful, romantic, and sexy. So I am sure there are guys who are trying to date and or have sex with her. Eventually one of these guys could wear her down and she could give into them. So while I am sitting back being the nice guy and not "pressuring her" to go on a simple walk at the park or mall. Some other guy might be trying to have sex with her. It's kind of like the nice guys finish last type of thing. So my question is, how do I not pressure her to date me but also not lose her to another man???

Question #12:

Could you help me give my boyfriend a makeover (pictures included)?

My boyfriend came to me and asked me to help give him a makeover, but I really don't know what he should do. He's looked the same for the six years that I've known him, so I've gotten used to his look. What do you think he should do?

Also, he says under no circumstances will he get rid of his glasses.

This one is a bit older (that's me with him): Click Here

These are more recent: Click Here
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This one is from Christmas and shows the kind of clothes he wears: Click Here

Question #13:

WIRELESS INTERNET NOT WORKING HELP ME COMPUTER GEEKS!?

OK this may be a tad long.
ive got a u90 netbook fo christmas and its worked fine on my internet.
then i moved house D: and my internet got disabled for a while.
so now its back on (Y) i have xbox live again and internet for my wired connection to my computer (im on now)
but i want to go on my lap top at night and other occasions and heres the problem
my modem is bthomehub-87e2 btw

i start up my laptop and view the wireless internets and next doors internet comes up but not mine so i refresh the network list then my comes up straight away then when i click connect it says waiting for network then closes. :( so i reset my internet and laptop and checked again but it came up then i refreshed and it went again
so it keeps disconnecting from wireless even though the wireless light is on my modem
help me for 10 points you will make me veary happy :)

thanks.

Question #14:

Seniors, Were you thrilled with your very first two wheeled bicycle? What do you remember about it?

I was 6 years old when I got a brand new blue two wheeler for Christmas. It had a wire basket on the front and streamers on the handle bars. Since there was snow on the ground, I had to ride it in our basement until Spring. I rode that bike everywhere.
Oh Patti, I'm sorry, but I had to laugh at your story. The picture in my mind was just too much.

Question #15:

Is the dream of a white christmas in england better than the real thing?

It`s been so long now that if it did snow i don't think it would live up to the dream.
All we get in the south east is slush witch isn't very pretty.

Question #16:

Staples free PC Tune Up? PLEASE ANSWER!!?

1. What type of computers do they except? My parents got mine for Christmas at the Stockton staples. Will they except it in Lodi Staples without a receipt?
2. Do you leave your laptop/computer at staples for a day or do you bring it in with no appointment and they will do it in like half an hour?
3. Is it completely free after you walk out the door?

Thank You

Question #17:

Hey girlies i'm coming back to TTC!!! :) How have you been getting on since xmas?

Hey, don't know if anyone remembers me but I was TTC last year and was on here regularly. Anyway, hubby and I stopped TTC at christmas and had a break... well we've now officially decided to start TTC again this month :) I'm so happy and excited to be back into it... and hopefully the break will have done some good!?

So I took my last pill last night so CD1 should start tomorrow! Fingers Crossed!

So anyone got a BFP since christmas? Anyone still trying? Any news anywhere? lol
Aww congratulations Isla's mum... I love the due date, looks like you're starting a bit of a theme for yourself lol x
Yay! Really nice to see people remember me! :) Hope you get your BFP very very soon Michelle - i'll keep watch for your news!

I remember you too Haze, hope the CBFM gets you your BFP! It's nice to be back and chatting to you all again! x

Question #18:

Does anyone know the name of the finalist in the School of Saatchi TV programme?

I really want to know the name of the artist who created art out of stacks of chapatis in the programme on BBC2 where Charles Saatchi chose a new artist to win an exhibition etc etc.. it was on just before Christmas I think and this artist or a picture of his would be really helpful in my art project.

Question #19:

Its mine and my boyfriends first year together this month and i stil havnt brought a presant?!?

Any ideas?
He is in the army if that helps.
He valentines day i brought him a photo album, for christmas underwear and dog tag etc..

Question #20:

do you think his jokes were un-funny?

okay, ive been with my boyfriend 'joe' for nearly 5 months, i am absolutely head over heels in love with him, and would never dream on cheating on him (i never have done before with my ex's and havent loved any of them) my boyfriend was paranoid i would cheat on him at the very beginning of our relationship cos hes been cheated on in every other relationship, but he trusts me now..

i have a friend at college, 'harry', he has always liked me.. i know he has, but the thing is ive never seen him in that way, just a nice friend.. harry knows joe, cos joe was at the same college last year (joes older) so harry knows about joe, and when he first found out i was going out with joe he wouldnt stop talking about it..

we are both going to a festival this summer (me and joe, and harry and one of his friends) and yday i said "oh were going to that too"
harry: oh we should hook up
me: no, thats not gonna happen.
harry: who are you going with?
me: joe!!
harry: (to my other friend) look mate, shes hitting on me.
me: no im not, i love joe and i would never cheat on him.
harry: yeah until just now, and until the festival

it just really annoyed me, he doesnt seem to get i dont fancy him at all.. also, we had a college christmas party, and harry said to joe that i flirted with loads of boys at the party.. which was an ABSOLUTE LIE, i was just with my girl friends all night and hardly spoke to any boys.. the only boy that actually flirted with me (i did nothing back) was harry himself.

dont you think his jokes are just really un-funny? should i tell my boyfriend what he said about the festival thing? xx





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